Reading another cozy-romance:
I'm honestly starting to believe that I have _no_ clue about "normal" sexual attraction.

In this book the characters had one date that went really well: good conversation, good connection. It ended with a brief goodbye kiss. I dunno if I'd ever have the guts, or desire, to do that after the first date, but I get it.

Two days later, they find themselves alone together, their eyes meet, and they start making out.

Serious question: Is this normal?
🧵1/5

I ask because I _keep_ reading romances and time and again I find myself confused as to why the characters are suddenly all over each other, or hopping into bed.

Is this just a matter of romances hurrying things along to keep the reader's attention, or are they actually representative of what happens when two allosexuals are into each other?

I wouldn't question it if was an occasional thing, but it's like 95% of the books I read.
🧵2/5

I actually just stopped reading a book that had a very nice gradual flirty emotional build-up, because all of a sudden the characters were stripping each other's clothes off and I was like "whoa. WTF? Shouldn't it have taken another month of build-up to get to this point?!"

The author has a _lot_ of books out, and i _think_ she's pretty successful, so I assume she has a clue about romantic / sexual pacing, but stuff like this completely knocks me out of the story.
🧵3/5

Either way it's making me wonder what the hell people will think of my books because they're like 50k words or more before the first kiss, and those pages are absolutely _not_ filled with "omg she's so hot. I need to kiss her, can't wait to feel her, etc. etc."

I mean, they definitely get spicy, and the characters enjoy each other's bodies repeatedly, but I think I'm starting to understand how _extremely_ demisexual my stories are.
🧵4/5

In my stories people gradually get closer, open up, become vulnerable with each other, and _then_ be "gett'n jiggy with it."

I'm realizing now that the 1st book is a threesome were I don't think I can really say that _any_ of the characters are noted as being sexually attractive to the others. They all - of course - end up making love, and thoroughly enjoying each others bodies, but it's literally never "OMG SHE'S SO HOT. MUST BONK"
🧵5/5

@khubsuratinsaan in the US, NOT having pre-marital sex is uncommon. Personally, I am a big fan of premarital sex because damn would it suck to be allosexual and stuck in a marriage with someone you are sexually incompatible with.